The Panty-Dropping Time

We all do it (unless we think that premarital sex is evil and carnal pleasures are sinful) sooner or later when we start to date someone. The big question, however, is “when” to drop the panties so that it doesn’t spoil anything in our blossoming relation* or lead to a heart break if a guy was only interested in us in the biblical sense.

The general rule seems to be rather later than sooner. I don’t think there’s any exact number of days/weeks/months that a person should wait but definitely we should feel comfortable with a person and with what we’re doing. I think it’s in general highly uncommon (I’m not saying impossible) for people to feel enough at ease with each other immediately after the first date to allow this level of intimacy and doing what we feel is right is the only way to avoid regrets in case things don’t go exactly as planned.

For a man it’s not uncommon to just hang around “to score” and the trick is to recognize whether it is so with our new romantic interest. Women often misread interest as necessarily being of romantic nature. They’re wrong. If we allow enough time to look at a person’s behavior around us, we usually know what they want (we can always ask them the question “what are we?”) and if it’s not the same thing we do then having sex will definitely not help to make them interested in our personality if they were not charmed by it before.

We often rush into sleeping with someone because we think that they will lose interest if we don’t. The fact is, however, that when a guy is actually into us, he rarely minds waiting, as he enjoys our company and being around us. It’s just advisable to give him some time to realize that there’s more into us than just looks. The more we know the person, the less awkward the first sexual experience.

Nevertheless, making the guy wait forever doesn’t make much sense either. Yet again when he’s not into us he won’t start liking liking us after we sleep with him so he’ll lose interest all the same once he achieved what he wanted. Even if he likes likes us if we let the expectations grow too high we’re just setting both ourselves and our partners for disappointment. Sex can be amazing but that usually comes with knowing the person’s needs and not with our exceptional skills because even if we can clap “Old McDonalds” had a farm with our vagina it may not be everyone’s favorite song.

In brief, in my opinion, the perfect panty dropping time is when WE feel we want it and not when others (the guy, our friends or his friends) think we should want it. If we’re not sexually interested in him, we should reconsider our choice as whatever the poets and priests have been trying to tell us chemistry and attraction are a very important elements in a healthy relation.

*I’m assuming that your goal is to be with the guy. If you’re interested in a one night stand that’s fine with me but this post will probably highly irrelevant. In this case you can drop your panties anytime between “hi” and learning what he does for a living.