To Sext or Not To Sext?

A recent conversation really made me feel my age. Subject matter: Snap Chat. For those, like me, who are in the dark, Snap Chat is app which allows the young(er) generation to send photos to each other, but only for a matter of seconds, after which the said picture disappears forever. At first glance, this may seem like a pointless exercise but not if you are an avid SEXTER?

What is Sexting? This is basically when you use smartphone technology to send sexy messages/photos to your significant other/fun time person. Thanks to the celebrity sex tape/revenge porn stories that we see pretty much every week in the media, you’d think people would think twice before sending glorious images of the lady/man bits out in the big bad technologically-savvy world. But it seems not, people seem to love spontaneously sending/receiving pornographic images in the most obscure of places (e.g. church, on the bus, during a dull business meeting,etc.).

There must be some appeal because otherwise there’d be no reason to create an app for the purpose of allowing ‘free’ spirits to be pornstars for a day (well a few seconds) without any repercussions (hard to believe). As a person who carries her life in her somewhat dated smartphone, I realise it was only a matter of time before we not only used these devices to help us find love, but also as a means of embracing our promiscuous side (I see Snap Chat being particularly popular with WISOs/MISOs).

And most of us, even the good girls, get lured into a false sense of security during that honeymoon phase of a relationship and end up being slightly risqué. Trouble only arises when that relationship turns sour and that boy you thought was decent decides to send those dirty photos out to all the pervs of the World Wide Web. Then it’s only a matter of time before one of your ewww uncles, or worse your boss, gets hold of those images that were only intended for the eyes of the man that you oh-so-naively thought would be your future husband. And BOOM there goes your reputation as a decent young lady and your chances of landing your dream job.

There are even cases where the decision to have ‘your’ naked body plastered all over the internet gets taken out of your hands. I’ve always believed that the best friend you can make at the office is not the CEO of the company, but the IT guy, especially in the digital age. Let me tell you a story about an emasculated computer geek, who after one too many rejections from the ladies, took to photo shopping the faces of every girl that had ever had the audacity to look down upon him onto the body of a pornstar and subsequently putting said images all over Facebook for the world to peruse. This is not good, especially if you are hail from a traditional ethnic community where Daddy truly believes his little girl is a virgin when he walks her down the aisle. Let’s just say, this tale didn’t end well, the elders got involved (and probably enjoyed a good old perv) and Mr Computer Geek ended up spending a night in the prison cell.

So, for some brief advice from #englishrosiee (gosh I sound like an OAP), when it comes to sexting, just DON’T, it’ll come back to haunt you (even if you think you’re getting away with it now, those dirty pictures will resurface when you are in an old age home). If, in a moment of madness you do succumb to such an exhibitionist urge, and it does subsequently come to bite you in the backside (pun intended) the only thing left to do is OWN IT – you were young, naïve and (hopefully) in a relationship with a douche bag who you stupidly trusted – people will understand and if they don’t, forget them. Soon, another idiot (maybe the sad spinster who isn’t getting any) will make a porn video with their dog, and you’ll be tomorrow’s news. And NEVER upset the IT guy 😉

Now readers tell us your thoughts on the new fangled phenomenon of Sexting…are you all for the fun times or is it just not worth the risk?