Home Wrecker! – Is the existence of the Other Woman ever justified?

By now most of us have realised that this world is a not such a perfect place and certainly not the land of butterflies and talking teapots that Disney promised. The world is full of bad, bad men (and women). People who are so damaged that they get kicks out of inflicting pain on others. Even those who are not total Ashley Madison type lost causes are still out there looking for a quick hook-up. It seems like the option of having a wholesome, decent relationship/marriage is no longer appealing to much of society – why stick to one man/women all your life when you can have your pick of them with such easy access to orgies, swinger’s parties and strip clubs?

The fact is though, we are all part of this hopeless place in which we reside not just innocent bystanders as we’d like to think. The sad truth is not everyone scouting for ‘love’ is necessarily going to be single. The best proof of this are the many ‘single men’ who use pictures of themselves alongside their brides on Tinder. The chances are at some point all of us hotties are likely to be propositioned by a guy who is already attached in some way, whether it be that they are married, engaged or in some sort of decade long loveless relationship will a troll-ess. And yes, maybe he is smoking hot and charming (hence his ability to play the field as he does) – but is it ever OK to consider becoming his Other Woman (OW)?

Of course it’s not wrong to consider the option. After all, you are a free agent and it’s a free market economy. One could argue that in a place like Cape Town where there are 8 women to every man, it’s up to the chicks who have men to keep them suitably entertained. Because if they can’t, the man’s eyes are bound to wander and will eventually land on some other pretty little thing. And all is fair in Love and War, right?

Hmmm…. Even if one looks at it from a purely selfish point of view and says why should I care about the feelings of his no-name chick at home?  It’s important to think about the wider implications of our actions – on his SO, the kids, on him, on yourself and society in general. At the end of the day, if you don’t become the Home Wrecker in this situation, an unsatisfied man will surely find someone else to be his bit on the side? Exactly! There you have the answer…you are replaceable! Regardless of what he says and however good looking he is, the truth is he is a CHEATER. As the famous saying goes – if he cheats WITH you, he’ll cheat ON you.   

So if the fact that by becoming a Home Wrecker your actions are likely to cause intense heartbreak to some poor chick and maybe some even more innocent kids (cos you know these cheaters are probably hiding a handful legit babies at home) isn’t enough justification not to act, ask yourself, whether you really want to pursue something with such morally-inept jerk? Yes, there are instances where the OW eventually becomes the Wifey. But really is this how we want our fairytale to begin? Do you really want to the Oscar for best supporting actress in yet another one of these sordid stories that litters our world?

No! Remember you are a Princess, The Leading Lady, not just a lowly OW!! Maybe, you are experiencing a severe sex drought and a romp in a field of daisies seems like a great idea, but its not (you are not an ANIMAL!). I understand it sometimes feels like Prince Charming is never going to arrive, but he is on his way I promise. So don’t lower yourself to the level of this cheater, don’t be a Home Wrecker! Send this silly fool on his way in the direction of some Long Street hooker, or if he is a tech-savvy kinda fella give him a link to Ashley Madison and CC his SO into the email. And then get on with your life and find yourself a real Mr Darcy.

So Rinsers, please provide your insights and moral wisdom in the comments below. Feel free to hate on OWs if you’d like. Or maybe you are/were an OW and you’d like to share your experiences with us…Go ahead!