Series Review : My Hotter Half


I’ve always prided myself on dating men that were out of my league (well, looks wise at least!). Sure, people will have something to say about my lack of self confidence but whatever. Blah Blah Blah. I know I’m not a total muntress but being a somewhat chubby girl and having the skillsss to land yourself a guy with a six-pack is an achievement worth high-fiving yourself on. In any case, I’ve always been happy to let my other halves be the ‘beauty’ in the relationship and keep my head in a book. It’s a good balance. I’ve never seen it as a competition. But it turns out that for some couples fighting for the title of being the ‘hotter half’ is quite something.

My Hotter Half is a Netflix show where couples go head to head to be crowned the ‘Hotter Half’. Basically how it works is that the two parties go into this photo booth to take a ‘selfie’ (which isn’t technically a selfie but a full-length shot where they must strike a pose). Then random people on the streets of Britain are shown the pictures and asked whether they’d date them. The person with the highest percentage of street people saying that they’d date them wins. The loser or ‘Uglier Half’ then undergoes a magical makeover – clothes, hair and make-up, etc. And voila, Cinderella/fella is transformed from an ugly duckling into a swan/flamingo/vaguely acceptable human being. They then take to the streets again to get opinions on the new look and try to gauge whether a) the makeover has had the intended outcome of making the ‘Uglier Half’ more date-able and b) whether its actually had such an immense impact that they actually become the ‘Hotter Half’ in the relationship.

Let me cut to the chase. The series is absolute TRASH TV. The concept is rather simplistic. The dialogue is bit monotonous and you didn’t really get enough of an insight into the participants to be able to identify with them. All you can tell was that most of them were a bit superficial (and you’d have to be to expose your relationship on such a show). I only watched three episodes but in most cases, the stories were predictable. A princess (boob jobs and all) dating a simple Joe and just wanting him to make a bit more effort. Couples that had become so comfortable with each other that they’d stopped caring about their appearances (I speak from experience when I say that once you start living in leggings its a slippery slope). And just this new-fangled attitude of ‘less effort is more’ (it really isn’t!). The saving grace for the series is the presenter (I do not recall his name) who has some good banter and seems like a nice chap. The brutal comments from the general public (and seeing people who think they are god’s gift to humanity taken down a peg or two) is also pretty entertaining. However, I only got through a few episodes of this before I decided it was frazzling my brain cells and I needed to find something better to watch.

That said, I do think the fact that someone felt it was necessary to create such a stupid series does say something about society. I admit we are all somewhat superficial. Let’s not lie…its much cuddling up to a guy with guns rather than flabby arms and I’d rather wake up next to a someone that I did’t think was a complete troll in the mornings. But the emphasis should surely be on what you/your partner find attractive rather than the opinions of randoms off the street. For the couples of the series though it was necessary to have outside validation to a) make themselves feel better and b) legitimize their relationship. Why all the competitiveness? Does your partner only become more attractive when you realise there is potential competition around?

And then there is the issue of becoming too comfortable in a relationship and letting yourself go. Sure, its nice to be with someone who loves you without make-up and high heels on but that doesn’t mean you should live in active wear for evermore (I know, I’m a fine one to talk!). And on the flipside, while it’s nice to look good and make an effort for your other half I personally think it’s more important to do it for yourself. In the aftermath of a breakup, I had a friend tell me that the silver lining was that now I could save on intimate hair removal. Like ewww no! The fact is you have to look at yourself and be stuck with your substandard body all day everyday, so you should at least keep it in a state that doesn’t make you want to vom in your mouth!

And finally, from the three episodes that I managed to watch it was also evident from the public comments that smoking hot looks aren’t always a good thing. Turns out they can be somewhat intimidating – often if you are too good looking/well-dressed people are just scared to talk to you and make certain assumptions about you based on appearance. So it turns out, even the prettiest people and most fashionable in the world may not have all that many options when it comes to the dating pool.

Have you watched My Hotter Half, rinsers? Do you have anything positive to say? In your romantic relationships is it important for you to be the ‘beauty’? Is it important to receive validation from outsiders about whether or not a person you are dating is ‘hot’? Do you think shows like this are wake up call to people that have become complacent about their appearance thanks to being secure in a stable relationships? And finally can being too good looking ever be seen as a curse? 


  1. Ouch, IMDB agrees with you… two stars! You’re right though, these trash TV shows exist because they will always have an audience. Holier-than-thou folks like to lament modern culture and apps like Tinder but let’s be real here, who doesn’t judge at least a few people solely on their appearance every day? I can’t claim to be that enlightened!

    I watched the first episode a while back (it’s all I could handle; I’m not much for any reality TV) and it also, intentionally or not, touched on the fact that personality is largely irrelevant in today’s dating scene… at least at the outset. You can make virtually anyone look attractive enough to go out with at least once.

    In that light, I don’t know if I really believe in the notion of “leagues”. I’ve used the term “out of my league” before, of course… but as I’ve gotten older and wiser I’ve realized that what the saying really means is “they intimidate me so I’m too afraid to talk to them”. Very few people think of themselves as so hot an average person shouldn’t be allowed to speak to them (in my experience). Besides, what constitutes these league rankings? Is it purely physical? If not then we need to rethink a lot of our ratings because some of the most beautiful people I’ve met have virtually no neurons firing. Which on some level I think is an act. A sad, sad act.

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    • i don’t think personality is irrelevant. I think a well curated dating profile can say a lot about a person. For example, I think even without reading my blurb – you can tell from my pictures that I enjoy sport, the outdoors as well as dressing up and going out. From that if you read my profile – I think you can tell enough about my interests but also the tone of the writing gives an indication of my personality. That said, I realise a lot of online daters don’t think like that. Some people don’t want to give too much away or the want to create this image of ‘ugh, online dating wasn’t really my idea…a friend set up my profile’ so its just a few pics with no blurb. I know you shouldn’t really engage with these types…but I have to admit I have in the past purely due to good looks.

      As for rankings,,,,its not always on looks. Sometimes I’ve had super academic friends say they’d only date someone who was at least educated to ‘a Masters level. I do think being super smart of an expert in something, can also be intimidating. But I get what you are saying – the concept of leagues gets destroyed if you have self-confidence.


      • I understand the Masters thing. I prefer women who’ve gotten some sort of secondary education. It simply shows that someone makes good decisions and is motivated. It’s not a must have for me though as a lot of online dating women my age are divorcees who didn’t think they’d be supporting themselves and their children on one income lol.

        You’re right, personality is a factor… Once again I’ve fallen into my own trap of projecting my own feelings onto all of humanity! That’s why I like talking to you two ladies, it’s helping me see some of my logical fallacies.

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      • Aww, thanks for your kind words.

        I agree with the education thing to some degree as well. I’ve dated guys who’ve dropped out of high school (and to be fair I can’t remember much of what I learnt at high school in any case) but lacking education also means they often have a chip on their shoulder about it, which you’ll always have to deal with. I do prefer a person who is at least well read though but I’ve dated some weird and wonderful characters in my time, so the bar does shift from time to time as well.

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      • There might be a gender role issue for some men, too… Speaking to the “chip on their shoulder” aspect. Its more socially acceptable, at least here in the States, for an educated man to marry an uneducated woman than vice versa. I personally can confess when I was much younger I dated a woman with a bachelor’s while I wasn’t even attempting college and it was definitely uncomfortable for me. There was some justification as well since she could use her knowledge of rhetoric and logic to destroy me in any argument. 😂


      • 100% Most of the guys I dated in the past have had less of a formal education than me and its been fine. I’ve been book smart and they’ve been street smart. Its a nice balance. But there was this one who didn’t even have a high school education and very much did have a ‘victim mentality’, that felt the need to compete with me in other areas. It became one of MANY issues. Anyway, more recently I’ve levelled up and start dating guys that are more equally matched to myself (at least academically). I do think having that experience does add some more depth to a relationship as well.

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  2. This sounds terrible. Not that you could expect much from the title. From what you’re saying it reminds me of trashy MTV shows like “Wanna come in?” and “Date My Mom” 😀


  3. I’ve only watched the first couple, but their methodology for determining who the hotter half seems completely useless. On dating apps like tinder guys swipe right WAY more than women do. Women are way more picky about who they swipe right on, and men tend to be not picky at all. Women will often only swipe right on the men they are most attracted to while men will swipe right on anyone they are even slightly attracted to. So a completely average man (50th percentile in looks) and a completely average woman (50th percentile) would basically be a perfect match. But by their method, the girl would have a way higher rating. Seems like the woman would virtually always be crowned the “hotter half.”

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    • Hmmm….But this isn’t a dating app. They go onto the street and ask people. I think guys on apps only swipe right so much on apps because they want to give themselves as much chance as possible. I also realise I’m too fussy sometimes, so I try to swipe on even semi-OK guys without reading their profiles. Then once they’ve matched with me, I’ll un-match if they say something that doesn’t sit right with me.


  4. “I had a friend tell me that the silver lining was that now I could save on intimate hair removal. Like ewww no! The fact is you have to look at yourself and be stuck with your substandard body all day everyday, so you should at least keep it in a state that doesn’t make you want to vom in your mouth!”

    You sound very judgmental and full of s***.

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    • Thanks for reading 🙂 Each to their own though. If anyone wants to let things grow wild that is their call. None of my business…I’m not the one who’ll be looking at that body. I was just expressing an opinion with regard to myself.


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