There’s only a handful of countries that claim not to have been affected by corona and seeing that this list includes North Korea and Turkmenistan… Well, I’ll let you put two and two together.
This means that wherever you are, you probably have to deal with a number of new concerns such as:
1) Not catching a virus that could inconvenience or kill you / someone you care about (you may not have comorbidities but someone you hang out with may…)
2) Trying to navigate life with the limiting regulations imposed in your country
3) Taking into account a million and one new things, if you need to travel (provided that your country even allows international travel at all – unlike some countries, I’m talking to you, South Africa!)
4) Managing other people’s COVID comfort levels
5) Coping with family life, especially if you’re a working parent and creches/school are closed
6) Working from home or working in the office with new safety measures
And many, many more!
Don’t worry, my child… #zlotybaby is back to give you some tips on how to survive in these dire times!
1. Sort Out Your Family Issues
I know that if you live somewhere where many things aren’t allowed you may feel like murdering your children, spouse, parents and whoever else you currently see A LOT of.
There are people who have no one to talk on Zoom or don’t know how to use technology. There are those who are separated from their families because borders closed and travel is difficult or impossible. Some people are single billy no mates. Others live with someone they’re scared of.
If you happen to have a decent family, partner or a chosen family such as flatmates, remind yourself from time to time that not everyone is so lucky.
Having said that, if your family relations are bad, the pandemic may be the push you need to change your life. Living with your family should not feel horrible. Work on what can be worked on, ditch what needs to be ditched. When your partner shouldn’t be the person who you just somehow have to deal with, you may need a new one.
If other family members are toxic, perhaps it’s time to loosen your ties with them… 35 with a job and still living with mom? Well, here’s your chance to rethink your life choice! If it’s your kids that drive you mad… Sorry to say that but you just have to live with it.
2. Choose Your COVID Rules but Let Others Have Theirs
Oh boy, the things I’ve heard about people having disagreements and fights because of their different COVID safety comfort levels!
You have the right to be as scared or as chilled as you like about corona but you don’t have the right to impose your (dis)comfort on others.*
In other words, you may feel that your friends or family are too lax or too strict, at the end of the day your opinion doesn’t really matter. You will just screw up your relationships by having arguments about it. We’re all adults and we make our decisions using our brains. Don’t assume the links/studies that have convinced you are better. For every link you’ll send, a person has theirs. You know how they say you should never discuss religion and politics? I think there should be another topic added there: what’s the right COVID precaution level and why.
Decide what you’re comfortable with doing and stick to it. If your friends are too paranoid/relaxed just don’t see them. Don’t waste your time lecturing others, rather do something productive. Do you have too much time on your hands? DM me, I could really use some help with admin! Also, keep the below in mind.
“Overly lax” people:
-> May be simply single and lonely. The risk of getting the virus (especially if they’re not high risk) may be a better option than the risk of dying alone and being found half-eaten by Alsatians three weeks later (FYI a Bridget Jones reference).
-> May love the things/activities that you consider “overly risky”. We all have different priorities.
-> May just be careless and silly and don’t care, but unless they live with you it’s none of your business
“Overly paranoid” people:
-> May themselves be or live with someone who’s high risk. I live in a high-risk household due to a treatment my husband is on. Most people didn’t know about my husband’s condition because it’s well managed and has never been relevant… until COVID, that is.
It’s not just people with diabetes, hypertension and the elderly who are at risk. There are countless auto-immune conditions treated with immunosuppressants and steroids who make people high-risk as well as people with cancer and other issues. What about people living with HIV/AIDS that still has a stigma attached to it? Don’t be a d*ck, respect other people’s choices and don’t pry.
-> May have had bad experiences with hospitals or not be able to afford the treatment if they need it
-> May just be prudent and silly and care too much, but once again unless they live with you it’s none of your business
3. Check Your Privilege
Sure, you have the right to be as unhappy as you want at the moment. Does it really serve you, though?
It’s probably not great to compare yourself with other people but if you have to rather look down. There are so many people who are worse off than you. If you have the option of working at home you’re privileged (let alone the fact that you still have a job…). Many people are in the line of work where they can’t do that. Some are front-line workers. Think about it next time before you complain on FB because it makes you sound like a prince / princess. It’s not really important that others will judge you, what’s important is that you’ll make many people feel down.
If you’re feeling depressed, you can’t just start feeling better because others have it worse. It’s okay not to be okay and chat to your closest ones about it! However, maybe check your privilege ahead of your next social media rant.
4. Be Nice to Yourself
It’s tough for everyone at the moment to a different degree. Even if you’re a superstar, it won’t protect you from potentially getting the virus or seeing someone close getting it. Maybe we’ve lived under an illusion of safety but those of us who have are now in shock.
Exercise, working on personal projects and being productive are all worthy goals. They can help you with dealing with life at the moment too. At the same time, when life gets too much just give yourself a break. A treat once in a blue moon will just help your longterm goals.
I know it’s intimidating to see everyone getting ripped! SOME people get very competitive. #englishrosiee, for one, made her newly adopted dog attack me to prevent me from staying fit (her dog ran into my knee a day after I told her I didn’t pick up any weight during the lockdown. Coincidence? I don’t think so!). Still, allow yourself to do whatever you need to in order to stay sane at the moment.
5. Remember That This Too Shall Pass
There have been viruses around the world since humanity evolved into homo sapiens. This one is most probably not going to eradicate our species. This means that it may last around for a while but sooner or later it’ll end up managed somehow.
The question is what are you going to learn from this crisis and how will you come out of it? Just keep a few thing in mind:
– Pandemic or no pandemic, saving for a rainy day is a good idea
– You may win a fight and feel righteous about how smart you are with the way you handle the pandemic… but is the feeling really worth losing a friendship over?
– Worrying never helps. Try breathing meditation or yoga to help you stay focused on what’s really in front of you. Good things come and go just like bad things. The only thing we can take control over are our emotions.
– Being a fabulous socialite can be cool but it’s important in life to have people who really have your back. Invest in deeper relationships even when there are no limitations on going out.
– Learn to appreciate down time and boredom. Nothing creative or new can come out of constant business.
That’ll be it for today, Dear Rinser! Share your thoughts in the comments’ section. Unless you think COVID isn’t real, bien sûr, then you can spare me 🙂
*That’s with one exception: if your country says to wear a mask, wear a bloody mask.