To say that that the last 18 months have been weird would be a bit of an understatement.
The world has been turned upside down. We’ve been forced to reevaluate our interactions in light of a dirty, dirty disease that is out to get us. And dating, well is that even still happening.
While I might not quite be speaking from experience right now, my social media channels tell me that dating during a pandemic remains a thing and the young folk of the corona-infested world are refusing to die as virgins. Good for them I say!
Anyway, I am digressing.
We’ve entered a new phase of the pandemic now. And while things remain uncertain (like, will we ever travel again ?!?! #firstworldproblems , I know!) we have VACCINES (even in deepest darkest Africa, kids!)and things are looking somewhat brighter.
But this begs the question. How is vaccine rollout going to change things in terms of dating and relationships ?
I recently saw a article which made a rather interesting speculation about whether people would given the option of disclosing their Covid-19 vaccination status, which I figured would provide some interesting fodder for a blog post about whether people should be made to disclose their vaccination status and also the broader question of whether we’d want to date someone who had an opposing view on the vaccine to ourselves. Let’s break it down.
Pro-Vaxxers Are Likely To Be Making A Song And Dance About It
First things first. I’m not sure we can really label people ‘pro-vaxxers’, as such but let’s go with it.
However, the reason why I say pro-vaxxers or people that have had/will have the vaccine don’t seem to feel the need to hide their status. In fact, I’m sure everyone’s Facebook feed is full of happy, smiley, masked-up faces having a phat brag about how they’ve just been jabbed (I’m not denying I’m guilty of this too!) or proudly displaying their vaccine card like they’ve won an Olympic gold medal.
Some of these will take it a step further and use the opportunity to do their civic duty and encourage others to go get jabbed up too. In any case, you are unlikely to struggle when it comes to this group of people as the chances are they will be more than willing to disclose their vaccine status. In fact, the chances are they’ll be shouting from the rooftops.
As Are The Out And Proud Anti-Vaxxers
On the other side of the spectrum, you’ve got people ripping off their masks, parading themselves along Sea Point promenade, and sharing their conspiracy theories all over Facebook. So go figure.
But Its The Secret Anti-Vaxxers That We Need To Be Concerned About
So this is where things get tricky. I always figured that things here were pretty black and white here. Even if you are a bit of a ‘survival of the fittest-type’ individualist, most people will quite happily put their trust in the hands of medical professionals and go along with the vaccine or NOT.
And just like with Brexit, when we didn’t think that many haters existed and then experienced that nasty surprise, the same is happening here. I’ve been quite baffled to find more and more people who are somewhat ambivalent about the vaccine. These aren’t the out-and-proud Anti-vax brigade, but people who’ll casually tell you, they’ve decided to ‘wait’ (wait for what exactly?! Sinovac, perhaps?).
Ugh. I can’t even. I get the people that are scared. I get the people who are suffering from pandemic fatigue and just want to get back to normal but the secret anti-vaxxers, I can’t get my weak mind around it.
And What Does This Mean For The Dating Game
Well, that depends on you really I suppose.
I’m all for vaccine passports and being ‘segregated’ from the unvaccinated folks – after all, the pandemic has probably made most of us reevaluate friendships and narrow our social circle in any case so getting rid of a few extra acquaintances here and there is really no great loss. But I’m probably more brutal than most (even if everyone disowned me, I’d still have my dog!). But sure, it’s a bit complicated. You’ve got the WOKIES comparing vaccine passports to passbooks from Apartheid times and the like, etc. (not convinced, but whatever). And we can’t please everyone.
As for dating, while the dating apps can request people declare their vaccine status, they can’t really force them or police it. Of course, people will lie about as they do about more important things like having a wife at home.
I guess, all there is left to say is that COVID has truly screwed up the dating world which wasn’t all that peachy beforehand. So, it depends how you feel about dating at the current time. As with anything, if you do want to immerse yourself in the cesspit of Tinder (because dying a virgin is the only other option), you’ll just need to establish how much of a deal breaker a person’s vaccine status is.
So Rinsers, it’s been a while, I know. Share your thoughts on vacci-dating. Do you care about a person’s stance on COVID and vaccines? Or are there more important priorities for you when it comes to a potential partner? Do you think asking someone to declare their vaccine status is unreasonable? Would you date an anti-vaxxer (secret or otherwise)? Let’s chat in the comments section below.
Nice to read a post from you again! Tricky times indeed: I’m giving up dating/giving up everything- too hard basket right now 😦
Thanks for keeping an eye on the blog. I’ll write again soon. 🙂 I can totally feel your sentiment…its also probably why we’ve been so quiet on the blog.
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This is the first time I have read a post in a while. What a jump back into subject. Indeed vaccinated or not vaccinated has created much controversy. Many who had issues with wearing a mask will or seems to have problems with getting vaccinated. I wear a mask at work because of the closeness to the passengers I drive. I’m a chauffeur. I do it to protect myself as many passengers travel to many of the Hotspot where covid is rapid. I did get fully vaccinated. As for the dating scene like you said if they lie about their martial status or about whatever sexual diseases they may have…this might be one more thing that they not be truthful with.
What a time to be alive! Hey?
So, I find masks a little bit more of a grey area than vaccines. I’ll happily wear a mask in the supermarket or other public place but I’m refusing to wear it outside while walking the dog. I’ll use my judgement and avoid getting close to people (I wasn’t overly touchy feely, pre-Covid and ppl generally stay away when they see my dog!). Whereas with the vaccine, its either you are taking it or not. I don’t get the hesitancy…what exactly is waiting going to do ?!?!?!
But yeah, while it is something worth thinking about, the fact is people lie – whether it is about secret kids , STDs or vaccine status so it is gonna be a tough be pretty grim world out there!
Because of the nature of my work I wear a mask even though my boss doesn’t insist on it or even if the passengers don’t. In fact many of them ask if they should wear a mask and I answer thats up to you. If I told people the should they would complain but if you leave it up to them strangely enough they will wear a mask
Yeah I think most people follow the crowd especially when it doesn’t inconvenience them too much!
I think declaring your vaccininity on a dating app is pretty cringey. I just started dating someone for a few months which is a record for me within the last 6 years. She’s pretty average in that she learns things through word of mouth and as such most of what she knows is retarded, but I kind of think that’s cute lol. I think most people are like that so during a time when vaccines are THE only real topic, most people will become more anti vax because terrorizing people works far better than trying to educate them with data.
Yeah, I think the vaccine/Covid topic would naturally come up in conversation at some point but having the app ask you your status does allow you to quickly dismiss someone, if the issue is of importance to you.
When the whole Brexit thing was more raw, I put a note on my profile asking people to swipe right if they voted to leave. Dating is exhausting so for me wasting time going out with a bigot/racisit/hater would just be ugh, so I figured it was one way to narrow the field and save us both time.
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I LOVE the term “vaccininity”. You should trademark it 😀
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